Discussing your child’s first period with them is an important conversation, but it does not have to be uncomfortable. On the contrary, if you talk about periods, it can empower your child as it makes them feel more confident and ready for this natural phase. Here’s how to make the conversation simpler and more effective.
Why is it essential to discuss periods early?
Periods are a normal part of development for anyone with a uterus, but for many, it’s still something that feels embarrassing to talk about. You can make the experience more normal, and less scary by discussing periods before it arrives. By talking about menstruation beforehand, you take some of the mystery and fear out of it.
Opening the discussion early also allows your child to ask questions and learn about the biological and emotional changes they are experiencing. This makes them aware that they can come to you about their period, feeling supported and comfortable, instead of embarrassed or confused.
Dr Shashank Jain, MBBS, MD (Pediatrics), says, “The normal physiological age of menstruation is 9 to 15 years. So 8 to 10 years of age would be a good time to educate your children about mensuration. This can be done during routine daily activities like buying groceries or maybe when the mother is buying her feminine hygiene products. It should not be a serious discussion. Father should also participate in this discussion (based on the comfort level of the child).”
How to answer common period-related questions kids ask?
Naturally, children will ask many questions when it comes to periods, given that they still have not been through it yet. The secret to talking about periods without embarrassment is speaking clearly, and using neutral terms. Steer clear of using slang or using euphemisms unless your kid initiates these, as these can lead to confusion or embarrassment. Below are some of the most frequent queries and some ideas on how to respond to them:
1. “What is a period?” You can just say: “A period is when your body gets rid of the lining in the uterus, which occurs every month or so. It’s a normal process of becoming an adolescent and indicates your body is developing and transforming.”
2. “Why must I use a pad or a tampon?” Inform them that when they’re on their period, blood comes out of their uterus, and pads or tampons are there to deal with it. You may answer something like – “You will have a pad or tampon to catch the blood so you feel clean and comfortable.”
3. “Does it hurt?” Some cramping may be part of having your period, so it’s alright to admit that. You can say, “Some women get cramps or pain when they have their period, but there are things that can help, such as using heating pads, drinking water, or taking medication.”
4. “What if I have my period at school?” It’s a good practical question, and it’s good to inform them that they can handle it quite easily. You can say -“You can keep pads or tampons in your bag. If you have a problem, you can see the nurse or speak to a teacher.”
5. “How long does a period last?” Describe that periods tend to last between 3 to 7 days. You may answer- “Everyone is different, but most people have their period for around 5 days, and once that’s over, they feel better.”
Tips for making the conversation uncomfortable-free
If you want to make the discussion more relaxed, it’s useful to put it in a natural and everyday context. For instance, you can say, “Periods are a normal part of growing up for those who have a uterus. It means that your body is changing, and it’s a sign that you’re growing up.”
- Be calm: Your matter-of-fact calmness will make your child comfortable.
- Create a safe space: Ensure your child feels they can ask anything at any time. Keep the dialogue open and unjudgmental.
- Use books or videos: At times, employing educational material may be an easier way to bring up the subject so that it does not feel as confrontational. You can read a book or watch an appropriate video with your child.
- Provide them with resources: Ensure they have access to menstrual products such as pads or tampons, and inform them where to get them if necessary.
Conclusion
Discussing periods with your child needn’t be a stressful or embarrassing experience. By being open, clear, and calm in your approach, you’ll make your child feel ready, knowledgeable, and in control as they face this normal part of growing up. The sooner you have the conversation, the more ready they’ll be when the time arrives.
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